“You’re brown; have you been away?” Says pretty much everybody I see, including random strangers who have zero point of reference for my average daily melanin status at the moment. This is my most heard phrase from roughly May onwards; every year for the past ten years.… Read the rest
I love running, paddle boarding and listening to music (often at the same time) but they don’t put me into a flow state. They give me way too much space to ruminate. Having sex, surfing, climbing and playing my ukulele on the other hand (not usually at the same time) slam me hard and fast (and sometimes gently) into the moment.… Read the rest
Almost into February and I’m only just posting my first words of 2017! That’s not laziness, honestly, it’s been a crazy start to the year already; work is off the chart, the kids haven’t miraculously stopped needing four football related activities a week and I still work a full time job and have to quit at 2pm three times a week to pick them up from school on my epic 30 mile school run!… Read the rest
Uncommon sense works for me; I’m not sure nodding along to the wisdom of the masses is always the way forwards (quite the opposite in most cases I reckon). Here’s five thoughts that tend to get shot down before I have chance to explain myself if I try to voice them.… Read the rest
I’ve never liked the term ‘common sense’, it sounds too much like ‘accepted blah’ to me. What follows is some gentle anti-advice that you might not get anywhere else…
I spent a couple of days in Croyde (North Devon, UK) recently to get a little surfing and writing done and I wandered past the surf school where I took my first lesson around ten years ago.… Read the rest
That’s a scary boatload of responsibility right there eh? Nobody is going to save you, you’re on your own. You are an island.
It’s not the cold hard truth that it first appears though; it’s actually the answer you’re looking for.… Read the rest
[Picture credit: Me, Croyde, now]
I Have this writer friend, he’s quite a big deal. He encourages me with with ambiguous statements like “you’re on the right track” which coming from him I take to mean “YOU ARE AWESOME”.… Read the rest
A friend asked me a question the other day; she said “Other than having your kids, what was the best thing you ever did?” And then she quickly followed up with “And your worst thing that ever happened to you, what was that?”.… Read the rest
Sometimes, just being aware of something seems to pull us toward that thing magnetically. Not in some ‘secret’ universe will help you out way, but simply because you’ll navigate in that direction by yourself.
Once we know something (or think we know something) we have a tendency to put so much pressure on ourselves to adhere to the rules and constrictions as defined by the new thing we’ve learned that we cause ourselves an unhealthy amount of unnecessary stress in the process, quite often negating the improvements we were looking for in the first place.… Read the rest
Ola dudes. This is a new thing.
Being a prize geek I’m often surrounding myself with random collections of thoughts, writing, stuff, things, experiences and general weirdness that in themselves might not add up to much.… Read the rest