Happiness is a side effect. Thanks for the fails 2017

Happiness is a side effect. Thanks for the fails 2017

It’s been a challenging year, no doubt. But it really isn’t the year’s fault. A stoic view would be remembering that it is never the thing, only your belief about the thing that makes you feel how you feel.Read the rest

Everything You Want Has Already Happened, Just Not Yet.

Everything You Want Has Already Happened, Just Not Yet.

Of course, that title doesn’t make any sense, not if you’re using dull old chronology to figure it out anyway. But it may actually still be true. Everything you need to put you into that holy grail state of tranquillity that is the closest approximation to true happiness that I reckon any of us can aspire to may have already happened at some point in your unknown future.Read the rest

How to Carry on Watching Game of Thrones After a Breakup

How to Carry on Watching Game of Thrones After a Breakup

Firstly, let’s all congratulate me on the cheesiest post title I’ve ever written; shamelessly topical with a smattering of poor me. But that’s not really what I’m aiming for of course. I wanted to write about something that I’m embarrassed to admit I struggle with and how I deal with it.Read the rest

How To Get Paid To Chill By The Beach In A Campervan

How To Get Paid To Chill By The Beach In A Campervan

“You’re brown; have you been away?” Says pretty much everybody I see, including random strangers who have zero point of reference for my average daily melanin status at the moment. This is my most heard phrase from roughly May onwards; every year for the past ten years.Read the rest

Sex, Surfing, Climbing & Ukuleles: How To Find Your Flow State

Sex, Surfing, Climbing & Ukuleles: How To Find Your Flow State

I love running, paddle boarding and listening to music (often at the same time) but they don’t put me into a flow state. They give me way too much space to ruminate. Having sex, surfing, climbing and playing my ukulele on the other hand (not usually at the same time) slam me hard and fast (and sometimes gently) into the moment.Read the rest

Are Your 5 Chimps Fountains Or Drains?

Are Your 5 Chimps Fountains Or Drains?

[Picture credit: Me, Croyde, now]

I Have this writer friend, he’s quite a big deal. He encourages me with with ambiguous statements like “you’re on the right track” which coming from him I take to mean “YOU ARE AWESOME”.Read the rest

What A Stroke Taught Me About Living And Dying (but mostly living)

What A Stroke Taught Me About Living And Dying (but mostly living)

A friend asked me a question the other day; she said “Other than having your kids, what was the best thing you ever did?” And then she quickly followed up with “And your worst thing that ever happened to you, what was that?”.Read the rest

Cry Heart, But Don't Break (How To Heal A Broken Heart)

Cry Heart, But Don’t Break (How To Heal A Broken Heart)

A breaking heart turns out to be the daddy of feeling bad. I’ve run the gamut of tricky emotions over the years, like we all have; fear and anxiety chief among them. But heartache sits high above the others with it’s sheer, overwhelming presence.… Read the rest

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